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It may seem counter-intuitive to think about giving thanks when you are going through a divorce.  Let’s face it, you are probably going through the worst emotional trauma of your life.  If you and your spouse mutually agreed to divorce, remember that, even though it...

Most people want to do what they believe to be the right thing most of the time.  If you can think about a time when you didn’t do the right thing, reflect on what was going on at that moment or point in your life.  Chances are there was some overriding emotion or...

Not only doesn’t divorce have to be a nightmare, but it doesn’t have to take forever either.  A surprising number of couples are able to divorce quickly and inexpensively.  I am not talking about the kind that go to mills which, using a cookie cutter approach, have...

“You explain to people first, why is it that I think what I think? You’re not trying to prove a point. Law is not mathematics. If I am a mathematician, I am trying to prove why ‘A’ follows from ‘B.’ But this is not the nature of this discipline. The best I can do is...

I believe that: People want to do the right thing; They want their kids to be OK; and They want a fair settlement. Depending on why the divorce is happening and how recent the decision is, they may not realize this.  It is the job of the professionals – and sometimes...

No! Finally in August 2010 New York became the last State in the nation to pass a no-fault divorce statute which took effect in October 2010. You can now get divorced based on an irretrievable breakdown in the marriage for at least six months, provided one spouse says...

The decision to divorce is a difficult one. The process can also be very challenging emotionally. Many people find it very helpful to consult with a therapist to help make the decision and to ease the emotional challenges of the process. If you have children you may...

If there are marital assets that only your spouse can access perhaps he or she would agree to pay the cost of mediation, or your attorney fees. If your spouse does not agree it is unlikely that you would be mediating. In that case a motion can be made in Court to...

It depends upon how complex your issues are, how much conflict you and your spouse have, and how cooperative your lawyers are. In mediation there is no retainer required up front. You pay at the end of every session, and pay small upfront costs for preparation of the...